It looks REAL. It is NOT mass-produced, fabricated, boxed up with a bow, manicured, purchased in any worldly way, borrowed, stolen, coaxed, earned, hoarded, parceled out, delegated, shared in a conditional way, … I am talking about non-commercialized love.
This topic has been on my mind for a while now. But with the recent “celebration” of Valentine’s Day and a good amount of chatter about the subject, I started thinking about real love a little more.
I guess that most of us at some point believe that we have the whole “love thing” figured out – we know what it is, what it is not, when it applies, when it doesn’t, how to evaluate it, how to convey it, how to cultivate it, etc, etc, so forth and so on. The problem, however, is that the concept of LOVE is being twisted and turned in all kinds of directions these days – so much so, that it can mean almost anything these days. Actually, to some folks, it does mean almost ANYTHING… except actual LOVE!!
I struggle just like many other folks with truly appreciating what it means to love someone, something, in a genuine, non-commercial way on a day-to-day basis. Part of the reason is that the portrayal of love that we are bombarded with in the movies, television shows, commercials, music, books, magazines, even video games, is often quite different from the rough-and-tumble, beautiful version of the real thing. These vehicles have taken a very deep, innate human quality, given to us by God himself, and turned it into just an “emotion”, a “feeling”, a bargaining tool, a “stage of life”, a mere symbol, … everything except what it truly is.
I must admit that I am not a big fan of Valentine’s Day for the sake of picking a particular day of the year to highlight LOVE. But I am also not some horrible ogre or downer-dude who is trying to rain on the “celebration” parade. Highlighting love on Valentine’s Day is fine, even fun – but what I really want to grow into in my lifetime is being able to show my wife, teach my children, and exemplify for my family, friends, and even the rest of the world what REAL love is every single day. I know this is a tall order, especially for someone who trips up quite often (though I try not to), but I believe that this is more important and meaningful than just remembering to buy chocolates, flowers, and a card on one day out of the year. Call me crazy…
Ponder these words of wisdom:
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT)
(4) “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud (5) or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. (6) It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. (7) Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
To put this whole non-commercial thing into perspective a bit more, take a look at this really sincere post from one of the most loving, caring people I know – written about his desire to spend time with his wife on Valentine’s Day: http://jmacthefisher.wordpress.com/2014/02/16/romance/
Well, more to come in subsequent posts…